Arphaxard Kimoto (yes, you read right, “Arphaxard”) is part of #TeamVivo and manages all things Tech. His name is quite the tongue twister so he goes by “Kim”. We had the pleasure of featuring him and his beautiful family this Father’s day.
What kind of dad would you say he is?
Kate (His wife): Kimoto is a very caring and considerate dad. He always tends to put his family first, so much so that I need to remind him to take some time for himself.
Kimoto: (Shrugs) I just do my thing! Nothing more nothing less. (Typical guy response).
What do you like about fatherhood?
Kimoto: (Laughing cheekily) Being taken care of...let me explain. Personally, I was used to takeout, but since the child came into the picture, it’s been home cooked meals. Besides home cooked meals, children often need special attention like gifts and outings and I get to be a part of that. I also like that the family bond deepens when you have kids.
How old were you when I became a dad?
(He looks at his wife and asks how old he is…then they do the calculation)
Kimoto: I was 26 years old. Yup 26.
Were you ready?
Kimoto: No I wasn’t!
Kate: Men are never ready! (They laugh)
Kimoto: It was tough in the beginning but you get used to it after a while.
What do you enjoy doing with the kids?
Kimoto: Sitting around the house, travelling and going places together.
What is the most challenging thing about fatherhood?
Kimoto: Saving money and paying school fees… (They look at each other and laugh) In the beginning, you aren’t used to that. You're used to freedom, dates & spoiling each other but things change. You have to prioritize and think before you spend.
The second challenge is time. Managing work, school and time with the family is a delicate balance.
What do you want your kids to grow up to be?
Kimoto: I want them to be themselves. To learn to speak their mind, be independent and choose their own path. I'll let them be what they want to be.
How is your parenting different from your father’s?
Kimoto: My dad was very strict and he often used to discipline us – well, beat us- but that was our generation. Personally, I prefer dialogue. I first talk about what's been done and explain why it's wrong. However, it depends on the crime (laughs).
What are you grateful for when it comes to your own dad?
My dad made me who I am. His strictness and all. Whatever I want, I know that I have what it takes to get it. I go for what I want with confidence, thanks to him.